So I am sure by now we all know about how Target pulled all its swim suit adds due to the photoshoping of the pics. It is following on the heels of Aerie’s statement to on longer use photoshop.
While training one of my clients the other day we were talking about all these things and she made the comment that she wished it all would stop. Hoping the media would just leave us all alone. That got me to thinking….
The concept of what is beautiful (and thus making the statement of what is not) has been around for ages and ages, and people have been busting their humps to try to achieve it. Think back in time…. to every century, every decade. There were corsets, big huge afro, Twiggy , pin straight hair , bound feet the list goes on and on and on. There was a time when being “full-figured” was a sign of wealth. This idea of what is considered desirable and what is not is nothing new…. thigh gap , bikini bridge tho much more dangerous to try to achieve, is nothing new. People trying to achieve it also nothing new , even if it was unhealthy and not in their genetic make-up to get there.
Let me make myself clear, the media is not helping the situation and really the need to get a clue and back off, but really what needs to happen is we need to change the way we feel about ourselves.
Why is it we let what we are “told” is beautiful become what is truly beautiful to us. We know damn well that every “body” is different (like a snowflake), so how can we all be expected to fit that mold.
Maybe the answer to ending all this craziness lies inside each of us. Maybe if we really cared for ourselves more and really loved ourselves for all our flaws and all that makes us different and special these pieces of nonsense would not sneak in. We would look , listen and move on. Just like the kid who always teased us and mom would say…” if you ignore her she will go away, she is looking for a reaction”
Just think if we saw these images and thought ” wow that’s pretty” , and that was it. We did not make it our lives goal to try to look like the models. Hello, first off that ” model gene” is only given to about 5% of the whole world. Here’s a thought that I am sure most have not had, how do those models who’s photos are getting touched up feel? Hmmmm … probably pretty shitty , bet they are thinking that they are not good enough either.
I will say it again…. WAKE UP FULL OF AWESOME!! It is all about self-love, you are amazing flaws and all. When our kids are little we want them to be different, be leaders. When does that all change ? When does it happen that all that matters is fitting in, looking like everybody else?
I learned a huge lesson the other day from Toby…. she said to me ” mom I realize I choose my friends because they are self-confident and can make their own decisions. They know who they are and really don’t care what other people think” Holy Crap!!!! She so didn’t learn that from me but thank goodness she know that and knows who she is!! That is what I guess I am trying to say, if we all really knew who we were then all of this other crap would become white noise.
I know too many kids who are so beautiful and healthy, and feeling so horrible about their bodies. This is not the minority, sadly this the majority. I wish there was a pair of super special glass that they could look thru and see the true “them”. We need to be the “glasses” for our kids and ourselves, be kind , acknowledge their feelings – listen to them talk to them. There is no right answer….. just love.
That being said the “white noise” has been around since the beginning of time so it is really not going away ( but it would be great if the media would back off and give it a rest). Learn the joy of self-love!
Believe me I know it is so much easier said then done. My mother always told me if it was easy it wasn’t worth it and we all worth it. I still try to pull on the boyfriend jeans and they don’t hang on me like they do on others and I get bummed out, but I move on. What can I do ?? I am pretty lucky that I have legs that work, and they can do some serious ass kicking a Tabata class!
I know I do not want to pass this self-hate down to the next generation….. they follow our lead. So lets all take a page out of Toby’s book!! Rock on and remember you are full of AWESOME!!
xoxoxox, your skinny genes